My #metoo is complicated by how the black community has made me feel about fatness. That because I wasn’t slim and trim I was supposed to take whatever attention I got and run with it because.. who the hell else should want me? As I expressed in my post On Usher, Sex, and the Fake Fat Friendly… Read More Me Too. Bc I’m Black, “Fat”, and Tired.
An open letter to the people who have a “strong” friend: You’re exhausting. At best, you’re selfish. You’ve gotten so used to the little routine of them saying they’re good so that when you look yourself in the mirror you can say to yourself, At least I asked, right? So to my energy depleters, here’s something… Read More For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide and not a Damn Soul Knows
If you haven’t read Part One, stop wyd and go read that now. I’ve had a long battle with my family over the lack of attention paid to me as a child. The idea was always “Patrice is good”. Listen, it’s all fine and dandy to support the students who are at risk. And I… Read More Insecure Academic: Being an Overlooked, Gifted, Black girl. (PART TWO)
Warning: This post gets vulgar. Just scroll on by if you’re gonna run and tell. Teach me how to love. Show me the way to surrender my heart Girl, I’m so lost, teach me how to love. How I can get my Emotions involved. Teach me, show me how to love I’m sure most of… Read More No, I won’t Teach you How to Love #PersonalPattyPost
Whenever someone inquires abt skool level I say "grad student" I'm wholly embarrased to say "PhD" unless they're an academic. I kno i kno🙈 — BoujeeRatchademic (@DOit4theBlkgrls) September 16, 2017 The above tweet contains the thread that inspired this post and the call for submissions for this series (Click picture to read). The thread… Read More Insecure Academic: Being an Overlooked, Gifted, Black girl. (Part ONE)
… and you pretend not to smell it. I try not to get too caught up in the “celebrity” self-help gurus that have 100 books out and make you feel compelled to buy each one. But this past Labor Day I popped into my local Barnes and Noble and came across some John Maxwell books in… Read More When You Reek of White Privilege…
I love academics and all, but I don’t wanna keep talking to em during off hours. Yall are stuffy! Unless you’re as ratchet as I believe myself to be, we don’t have a thing to talk about beyond this sentence. Like if you don’t assume the position immediately when the Cash Money makes their nightly announcement…… Read More Bad N Boujee + Blue Collar = Love.
I didn’t want to neglect the blog two weeks in a row but I’ll have to admit I’m feeling uninspired. The last two weeks have been a whirlwind with moving to Baltimore, and attending AmeriCorps VISTA orientation in Philadelphia just a few days after that. My bedroom is still not set up properly, I’m already… Read More Feeling Uninspired: A #PersonalPattyPost
Book: Getting What You Came For: The Smart Student’s Guide to Earning a Master’s or PhD [Revised Edition] by: Robert L Peters, PhD. Published 1997. I noted the year the book was published because some of the information may be slightly outdated, such as applications to grad school costing $25 (LOL), but the value of… Read More Keep it real: The book that put me on pause about going to grad school
Campus stress is almost inevitable. But there are ways to anticipate it and alleviate it. And I have a few suggestions on how to handle this relative to needing to regulate your mind while being on campus. 1. Get off campus Explore the world outside of your campus parameters for a change of pace. It’s… Read More #BackToSchool: 6 tips for Self-Care on Campus